This is a very important message I’d like to share to everyone.
Love isn’t always about sex sex sex…we rely too much on it for our happiness with our loved ones that’s why we face many difficulties in been happy in our marriage lives.
No matter how much connected or good you feel with your partner with sex, don’t depend on it to stay connected to your loved one. Because it fades eventually. And when it does you either lose interest or find your other partner unattractive. Which leads to constantly seeking for someone new outside.
Here’s then where the cheating begins. And when it does be sure to know that you and happiness have followed two different opposite directions.
Before we get connected to our partners in life there was at least something that had always attracts them to us. For some of us, it’s the way they look, some the way they dress, some the way they talk, some the way they tempt us or we tempt them. All these attributes result to issues in the future. Maybe having to experience change from the way that person does what he normally do or we grow wary and tired of constantly seeing them.
In the movie Friends with Benefits- the two partners were just friends who wanted sex with no attachment. They met after both had faced constant and different series of break ups. They agreed to be friends who can have sex but no side attachment of feelings involve. That’s how Friends with benefits was born. They thought sex was all that they needed until they grew tired and wanted to try something new, maybe try hooking each other up with side partners.
But deep inside them, actually they were trying to get rid of each other without issues involved in some way but later found out that all they needed was each other because whatever they had planned, it all didn’t work in the end. They realised they both know each other’s flaws and they fit for each other.
It occurs to them that at some point they actually were connected by the things they love about each other. They play like children, do crazy stuffs, have lots in common. And this were the trigger to the love, sex, and everything they feel towards each other.
In the movie Perfect Match- it was about a player who wanted no strings attachments or relationships but wants to F every sexy girl he ran into. He thought he was protecting himself from getting hurt by avoiding attachments until he met a girl who wanted to taste the waters with him. She understood that he doesn’t want attachment but still wanted to be having sex with her. And it was exactly what she wanted. They fell to it…took couple of weeks probably months until he realised she was getting married to another man which got him in an instant jealousy and hurt. He was in love with her.
But she wasn’t with him. He thought all along sex was the answer and in the end what he was avoiding took him by surprise. At the end of the day he just had to let her go. And believed in love and that the little things was what matters and not just sex.
What we all are missing is that the little, silly things we share with our partners matters too. Those silly talks, watching the movies together, Washing the dishes and helping her cook, hugging each other for no reason, cuddles, being crazy and weird with your man or woman. Those Tickles, been sarcastic and hilarious.
What’s there to be ashamed of? How do you expect to be happy in your marriage life when you don’t do all the silly things just because they’re silly?
Say i love you all the time to your loved one. Kiss them for no reason always, say sorry even if you’re not the one at fault for the sake of a peaceful home. Don’t use stress and tiredness as an excuse. That’s not an excuse. Stop hurting your spouses and expect them to attend to your sexual desires at night. They are not tools or machines or properties. They have feelings too.
If you’re to live your life without sex with your partner would you still have loved them? Be honest please. Can you live happily with love without sex?
Before you even think about marrying someone, think about why you want them first. Is it because of their beauty..? Because let me tell you this… it will fade.
Is it because of the curvy body…it will ware off too trust me.
Is it because of the way they dress, or because they have money or assets…and more?
If they are for these reasons, you will eventually dislike your partner when you meet someone who is or has better. That’s why you can never be happy or contented because you love your partner for a specific reason.
Perhaps if you decide to love your partner unconditionally then happiness will finds it way to you.
If your mind is gonna keep deceiving you that sex is the key to more love and happiness, then believe me you’re bound to keep hunting happiness.
The feeling of sex towards your partner eventually fades too. It’s not always about the sex…you gotta find that trigger.
Hope these helps in changing the way you see sex and love.
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